I didn't notice any references to the Hebrew phrase I mentioned.
In his Anchor Bible commentary (ad loc.), Baruch Levine points out the similarity between the Hebrew word tzitzit and the Akkadian word for ornament (ṣiṣṣātu).
Further on it goes into a discussion of women wearing Tzitzit (or not). The more interesting discussion is should women wear Tefillin
which I think is quite erotic.
I've mentioned before that I use Bibleworks and the references I gave were just for the exact phrase כְּתֹ֥נֶת פַּסִּֽים
I did another search on פַּס
6861 in Strong's.
And it came to pass, when Joseph was come unto his brethren, that they stripped Joseph of his coat, the coat of many colours that was on him; (Gen. 37:23 JPS)
and they sent the coat of many colours, and they brought it to their father; and said: 'This have we found. Know now whether it is thy son's coat or not.'
(Gen. 37:32 JPS)
And Tamar put ashes on her head, and rent her garment of many colours that was on her; and she laid her hand on her head, and went her way, crying aloud as she went. (2 Sam. 13:19 JPS)
Get the joke?
Judah and Tamar and [wiki]Tamar_(daughter_of_David)[/wiki] and Amnon.
In the narrative, Amnon became obsessed with Tamar, and she was said to be beautiful like her brother, Absalom. Amnon's friend and cousin Jonadab advised Amnon to pretend to be sick to ask Tamar to prepare him food. He did so, and while she was there, Amnon asked her to have sex with him. She said no repeatedly, but since he was stronger than her, he raped her. After the rape, Amnon treated her disdainfully and sent her home, hating her more than he had loved her. Tamar expressed her grief by tearing her robe and marking her forehead with ashes. She went to Absalom, who attempted to comfort her and took her into his home where she remained desolate. When David heard of her rape, he was angered but did nothing. Absalom had Amnon murdered two years later and then fled to Geshur.
Nothing to see here.
Joseph gets his coat of many colors stripped from him by his brothers (no way would they have raped him though), while Tamar tears her coat of many colors after being raped by her brothers friend, sort of with his assistance. When Joseph finally gets his chance to score in a male role he refuses for pretty dubious reasons and is sent directly to jail. The moral of that story today seems to be that it is sometimes correct to turn down pussy, maybe that is even true.
Of course, as you so eloquently point out, it is quite doubtful to think Israel and Judah weren't the best buddies (the kingdoms). Quite a coincidence that Israel had golden calf issues, one might think they would have learned from the Pentateuch.